My where has the time gone? It has almost been 6 months since I did a tandem nursing update! Baby Sister is almost a year old and Bunny is a little over 3 years old. Baby Sister has just started stretching out her nursing sessions. She now nurses every 3-4 hours during the day. She still nurses just about every 2 hours at night but has finally started giving me 1 big stretch of 4 hours! This is bittersweet because I do not have a period yet and I know with the longer amounts of time in between nursing session my period will show up sooner rather than later. Bunny was 13 1/2 months old when my period resumed so I am hoping to make it to at least a year with Baby Sister.
Bunny does not nurse very much at all. She breastfeeds maybe once a week, closer to once every other week. She does still ask for milk when she is scared, hurt, sad or tired. Not all the time, only when she really needs it. We went to an appointment the other day, a place Bunny has been multiple times, and this last time she wanted nothing to do with it. The appointment wasn’t even for her yet she was scared (?) of something in there. The only way to calm her down was to nurse her. Bunny fell off her bike today and while I was hugging her to make it better she asked for milk.
It is scary to nurse her in public. At that appointment, today out in my front yard. It was a bit scary to wonder what others will think of me breastfeeding my 3 year old. She does not nurse for long anymore, under 5 minutes. But still I wonder what people will think. The first time I nursed Bunny in public when she was a toddler, between 2-3 years old I remember wondering what people would think, if anyone would say anything and if maybe I should distract her or tell her she can drink milk when we are home. Then I realized it is normal to breastfeed my child and I should not be ashamed of it. I am teaching Bunny what to think about breastfeeding. If I act ashamed she will think it is something to be ashamed of when it is not. I have told Bunny to wait until we are home to drink milk in certain situations, like we are checking out at the grocery store and I do not have a safe place to put Baby Sister while I nurse Bunny and we will be home in just a few minutes. But if I have the time, the place and the help for Baby Sister I will gladly nurse Bunny right where we are.
Bunny does not nurse for long because she is now impatient. She wants the milk to flow immediately and gets frustrated when this does not happen. She is lucky she has a Baby Sister. If she did not she would not be able to go days and weeks in between nursing sessions without my milk drying up! Bunny gets frustrated when the milk does not flow the instant she latches and tells me, “It’s not working!” It is pretty cute. Bunny also is adamant that she needs to have the “other” milk, the one that Baby Sister has not nursed from. Baby Sister is okay at sharing with Bunny. Baby Sister often has to nurse from the side Bunny just nursed from once Bunny is done. It is like Baby Sister has to reclaim it. I do nurse them together now. I lay on my back and they each sit next to me and nurse. This came about because Baby Sister is sometimes too busy to nurse, but is hungry and sad. If I lay down she will walk over and nurse then go back to playing.
Every time Bunny nurses I wonder if it will be the last time. She is slowly self weaning and I am thankful I am able to do this with her. She knows she can nurse when she needs to but she is needing to nurse less often. I know there will come a day when Bunny will no longer breastfeed. I have been breastfeeding for over 3 years straight. I love going through this journey with my babies. I hope Baby Sister nurses to at least 2 years old and Bunny, well, she is in the process of weaning. I try to remember when she nurses so I can write down when the LAST TIME is so she can read about it as an adult. I know that day is coming soon, I just don’t know when.